Hiya,

Many people are suffering with a tremendous amount of anxiety and depression because of the recession.

It can be tough out there!

Now remember that I introduced you to my friend and colleague, Alan B. Densky, CH, who is an internationally known expert. Alan has over 31 years of experience at creating deep relaxation and rapid personal change through Hypnotherapy and Neuro-Linguistic Programming.

You will recall that to thank you for your participation last time, Alan will send you a FREE copy of his 7 Session “Relax In A Flash! – Advanced!” program on 2 CDs worth $39.77 PLUS a Package of Bonuses of astonishing value!

Well there’s more, Read on . . .

Imagine having the key to rapidly eliminating any negative feeling or behaviour, and the ability to quickly and effortlessly mould yourself into the person that you have always wanted to be.
Just picture having an extraordinarily happy, rich and fulfilling life.

I’m sure you’re eager to hear about all of the bonuses that
you will receive for participating in this event.

Firstly, as mentioned above, you will receive a FREE copy of Alan’s seven session “Relax In A Flash! – Advanced!” program on 2 CDs worth $39.77! This program has helped thousands to a more peaceful and tranquil life. This is his personal thank you for placing your order for at least one other program worth $39.77.

Second, regardless of the size of your order, as an additional bonus gift to you, Alan has brought together an extraordinary package of dynamic and transformative content that will act as the key to transforming your life.

Click the link below to see a list of all of the Bonus Materials that will be yours FREE when you participate in this event. I encourage you to act immediately as this offer will expire at Midnight on October 31 and after that it will be too late!

Getting the support you need plays a huge role in lifting the weight of depression. It can be difficult to maintain perspective on your own and even harder to sustain the effort needed to beat depression. But the catch 22 is that when you are experiencing depression then it makes it difficult to reach out for help. However, maintaining isolation and loneliness make depression even worse, so nurturing your close relationships and social activities are very important.
The thought of reaching out to even close family members and friends can seem overwhelming at time of depression. You may feel ashamed, too tired to talk, or guilty for neglecting your relationship. Just remind yourself that this is the depression talking. Remember, your loved ones care about you and they want to help.
• Turn to trusted friends and family members. Share what you’re going through, your experience, with the people you love and trust. Ask for their help and what support you want from them that they can give you. You may have retreated from your most treasured relationships, but they can get you through this tough time.
• If invited, go! Keep up with any social activities even if you don’t feel like it, just go. When you’re depressed, it feels more comfortable to retreat into your shell. Isolating yourself does not help your self esteem and the people who do keep inviting you out may not understand that you have depression and they will most probably assume that you no longer want to socialise with them and will stop inviting you out. Being around other people will make you feel less depressed, it will lift your mood and give you a sense of belonging, so even if you really do not want to go, take a deep breath and go for it!
• Join a support group for Depression. This is a great way to create belonging and to accept that depression is something that happens to normal people just like you. It enables you to let go of the feeling of isolation. Groups encourage each other, they give and receive advice and feedback on how to cope, and they share experiences. They can be of a great benefit to you, sometimes just for the fact that they allow you to share, to get things out, to release your feelings and thoughts and to just ‘blurrrrb’ without judgement.

For further help and assistance call 0845 474 5615 or 07709 564426 or alternatively email info@paramountcoaching.co.uk

If you have a difficult time controlling your depression and if sometimes your depression & fears get the better of you. Here is a short list of techniques that you can use to help control your mood.

One way of controlling your depression is to challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When you get thoughts that make you fearful, down, sad or depressed, challenge them by asking yourself questions that will maintain an open mind and common sense. For example, you’re afraid that if you do not get that job promotion you’ve gone for, then you will be stuck at your job forever and you no longer like it, it depresses you. This thinking is unrealistic in this situation because just because you don’t get this particular job promotion it doesn’t mean that you won’t get the next one or another one. In addition, people change jobs all the time, and you always have that option of going elsewhere if you are unhappy at your present location or perhaps changing departments or teams. Control your depression and ASK!

If you’re experiencing depression and have difficulty getting out of bed in the mornings, then when you open your eyes take a deep breath and think of one small thing you can do for yourself- a distraction that will take you mind off the problem. It could be a brisk walk to work, head high, taking in the sunshine, it could be singing to your favourite songs, watching a comedy while you eat breakfast or listening to a comedy routine o your way to wok on an mp3 any activity that gives you a fresh perspective on things. By doing something positive it will get your mind off of the problem and give you confidence to do other things as well.

Sometimes, we can get depressed over something we have to do in the future and worry ourselves unnecessarily over failure that hasn’t even happened yet. When this happens, just stop and imagine yourself doing whatever it is easily, visualize yourself doing the task in your mind. For instance, you have an interview with your boss about a possible promotion and you’ve been telling yourself you wont get it and imagining it all going wrong and you not being able to answer the questions etc, well if you can do that so well, and you can, so you can do the opposite imagine yourself opposite the boss answering their questions with ease, feeling confident and knowledgeable. Leading up to the event do this every day as much as you can and imagine the boss shaking your hand and telling you that you have the promotion. By playing the event again and again in your mind, you will be better prepared to perform for real when the time comes, as you have done it so many times before in your mind. There is a saying if you can perceive it, you can achieve it –so, if you can imagine it then you can actually do it! By rehearsing the event in Self-Visualization you can reduce the fear and stress as it becomes something that you have done many times before.

Another technique that is very helpful is carry a notebook with you a small pocket size one will do and whenever you hear or think of a negative statement about yourself or you life, acknowledge it and then write down the exact polar opposite in your book, creating a list of positive affirmations. You can also just think of positive statements or affirmations that make you feel good and can write them down too. For example, negative – I am useless I never get it right! Positive – By making mistakes I am learning more and more each day. Affirmation – I am becoming even more happier day by day. Whenever you feel depressed, open up your small notebook and read, you can sing them, read them silently, shout out loud or input you speaking them into your mp3 and listen to them, it’s up to you!

For more information on easy techniques to control your depression post a comment on here, email on info@lorannorthey.co.uk or call 0845 47 45615.
Here’s to Happiness, All the best!
Loran

I may have said some of this stuff before and please forgive me if I have, but if I have then it’s because this stuff really works!!

(1) Get Plenty of Sunlight!

Lack of exposure to sunlight is responsible for the secretion of the hormone melatonin, which could make you down hearted and sluggish.

So open your curtains, even the windows now its summer and let in some light and fresh air. Get outside for at least half an hour. Get brighter lights for your rooms, take regular break when travelling or even invest in a lamp that spreads natural light into your room to raise your mood.

(2) Get Busy!

If you are busy you’re not going to make the time to focus on the negatives… so start thinking about what you like to do and do it….It doesn’t have to involve money, it could be walking in the park, joining a walkers club, joining local volunteers in a project you enjoy, visiting the library, enrolling on a free course, local community event or club. A purpose, friends and belonging, will always aid your self-esteem.

(3) Chill-Relax!

Take some time out and relax… Listen to soothing music, soak in a nice warm bath, visit a spa, meditate, listen to a relaxation audio, do whatever is relaxing for you…Take a break, Take it easy and loosen up!

(4) Eat & Drink to improve your mood!

You don’t have to be a slave to a diet or strict routine just be aware of what you eat and drink. Sugar and caffeine can give bought of instant energy but then slumps later and tension, low moods and energy. Alcohol whilst ok in moderation like all things can become a depressant so just watch what you drink, if you know that certain drinks made you melancholy, its simple avoid them!

(5) Broaden your Social Circle!

Humans are fundamentally pack animals, we need interaction with others. Spending a lot of time alone is not beneficial to self esteem or positive mindsets so get on the phone and call someone up, visit a friend or relative, go to the local community club and join a group or help out. We all benefit greatly from a support group and a feeling of belonging being part of something bigger than ourselves, so get out there and start talking. If the thought of actually physically talking to someone you don’t know yet is too daunting, then maybe join an online forum in a subject you enjoy and converse on their and build your confidence. There are many charities and volunteer groups that would welcome your support and assistance. When you are out, walk tall, meet others gaze, smile and say hello, (or just smile!) remember, that simple gesture will not only lift your spirits but it could be the only interaction that other person has had for days…

To your Happiness! All the best, Loran

Dealing with depression
The causes of depression are varied and are no respecter of social class, wealth, sex or age – it can affect almost anybody and sometimes strikes without warning.

Causes of Depression
Although depression does not always respond well to self-help, most depressions can indeed be greatly improved via one of the many therapies that are available to deal with the situation. Why ‘most’ depressions? Well, mainly because depression is considered to be a serious illness that needs handling with great care, sometimes needing medication as well as therapy, sometimes responding well to medication without other help. Clinical depression, which includes Bi-polar disorder (originally Manic Depression) and endogenous depression, is thought to be caused by brain chemistry. Both of these disorders need medication, as does the depression sometimes brought about by brain damage or brain surgery.

With endogenous depression the individual is a constantly low mood, continually depressed; there is seldom, if ever, any change of emotional state and nothing seems to create a ‘lift’. Bi-polar disorder, on the other hand, is characterised by swings from lethargic depression to a euphoric state (mania). In the depressive stage, the individual is lethargically depressed and there is little or no urge to do even the basic essentials of caring for self; in the manic phase, the exact opposite applies and there is an excess of energy (sometimes accompanied by prodigious and selfishly-orientated sex-drive) and a euphoric feeling of being able to achieve almost anything. Not unusually, the sufferer, in this phase, will make elaborate and/or outrageous plans for success.

The type of depression that almost always responds well to therapy, and often to self-help, is all forms of reactive depression. These are usually brought about by the tribulations of life, rather than by any clinical imbalance in the brain.

Here are some of the causes of depression of this type:
Redundancy
Grief
Relationship issues
Money worries
Career anxieties
Stress
Moving house
Post-natal (some)
PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)
You get the idea – anything that has been ‘triggered’, even it has existed for some considerable time, can be helped by various forms of therapy.

In general, face-to-face work is better here, though some improvement can often be made via telephone or even online work.

Symptoms of depression
Depression symptoms can be enormously varied. Here are just a few – not an exhaustive list by any means:
Sleeping difficulties (waking early or laying awake)
Tired all the time
Tearfulness for little or no reasons
Eating when not hungry
Not able to eat
Loss of appetite
Obsessive thinking patterns
Loss of interest in personal care/hygiene
Poor memory/concentration
Loss of interest in sexual activity
Where therapy is indicated, it is impossible to forecast the number of sessions from this site, and indeed it would be irresponsible to do so, since if therapy did not produce a desired result within the suggested time, the depression might actually become deeper. When meeting with a therapist, though, it is often possible to get some idea of duration and number of sessions. It is fair to say that it is usually shorter than most people think.

For some people, the problem is at least partly dietary and many therapists are conversant with this aspect of the illness.

Two effective and easy self-help methods

Physical exercise
Although this can be difficult to start for the individual who is suffering depression, it is only difficult! It is certainly not impossible, even though you might think: “I just can’t…” Once you have started, it gets easier with every session.

The reason that physical exercise can be an effective aid with the condition is that it encourages the release of Endorphins – the human body’s natural ‘feel good’ chemical, that can work like an anti-depressant medication – into the bloodstream. The effects are often immediate and last longer as time passes, perhaps due to a ‘reconditioning’ effect upon the psyche.

If you are not used to physical exercise, be sure to consult your doctor before you start and also be sure to start slowly; brisk walking for 15 minutes is a good way to start and you can increase this as quickly as you feel comfortable to do so. You need to work hard enough to raise your body temperature and increase your heart/breathing rate but not to the point where speech becomes difficult. If you feel excessively tired or uncomfortable, STOP IMMEDIATELY.

S-M-I-L-E!
To many, the notion that smiling to yourself can help to make positive and lasting changes to depression seems ridiculous – yet it is well established that even a false smile, as long as it reaches the edges of the eyes, changes the body’s chemistry. Although the mechanism is not clearly understood, it appears to again encourage the release of endorphins into the blood stream. So if you smile broadly at yourself every time you walk past a mirror or other reflective surface, there is a high chance that you will soon start to feel better.

It is well know that laughter eases depression – for a while there were ‘laughter clinics’ in London where people suffering from depression were encouraged by various means to laugh long and loudly.

If you’re still not convinced, try this: Throw your arms into the air, force an expression of excitement/joy or happiness on to your face (ACT it!) and while keeping that position try to say: “I feel really depressed today” but saying it as if you mean it and actually sounding depressed. This proves to be impossible for most and usually, those who think they have managed it have not realised that they have lost the ‘happy shape’ that they took at the beginning.

This is, or should be, sound evidence that the body affects the mind; stand up, smile, walk briskly – and it is almost inevitable that you will feel better.

Many people are actually unwilling to attempt these self-help methods; investigation often reveals that they actually do not want the depression to lift. If this is you, search inside your mind to find out why (sometimes it’s because attention is being sought, for instance) then address the problem directly. Without doubt, that can be one of the best forms of self help

If you are suffering from any form of depression, the earlier you seek help the more effective any therapy is likely to be and the sooner it will start to work.

With thanks to Terence Watts @ www.symbiodynamics.com